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Does penis size matter?
Some say yes, some say no. It is a matter of continuing controversy. Men
and women argue this point, and magazines have frequent articles on this
subject.
Sometimes size simply
does matter, however. Gina from Los Angeles has this to say:
"I have been dating a
man who I think is wonderful. We have so much in common, and everything
is great. The problem is that when we have intercourse, I can't feel his
penis inside of me. There is also no contact with my clitoris. It
doesn't matter how long he goes, I can't feel his cock.
With other partners, I
can reach orgasm within a couple of minutes, but he is so small, I just
can't. I feel embarrassed going on about specifics, but his penis is
about 4 1/2 inches long and very thin. I try
to tell myself that it doesn't matter, but the fact is that I
deserve to have good sex and to have
orgasms.
Not only can I not
come, but I am worried that he can't feel much either, which makes me feel
like
less of a woman with
him. I don't know what other women do in this situation, but I'm confused
and
upset. This guy and I
get along so well, and everything is so great, but the sex is so
unsatisfying. What can I do?"
There are a few things
they can try, but unfortunately first she has to be able to tell him what
the problem is - and that is bound to be uncomfortable, and to put a
strain on their relationship. Can you
imagine how difficult it would be for a woman to tell a man
she cares about that she can't feel his
penis during sex?
After they have talked
about the problem, they can talk about solutions so that Gina receives the
sexual stimulation
she needs to feel good about their physical relationship. There are
penile
extenders
available at most sex toy shops, or they can be bought online. There are
small
vibrators designed to stimulate the clitoris during intercourse or at
other times. Her boyfriend can use a vibrator and masturbate or perform
oral sex before or after intercourse.
Also there are penis
enlargement techniques and programs. First off, there is surgery, but
that is expensive and intrusive. Most men would not willingly undergo
surgery, nor should a woman ask it. Then there are mechanical enlargement
techniques such as penis pumps and stretching rings. These can have some
effect, but can also weaken and tear the delicate tissue of the penis.
Some doubt that these pumps can be effective, and there are differing
opinions
as to whether such mechanical
techniques work.
There are also
exercises like the jelq and some special kinds of stretching. These
exercises
can
have some effect, but require both knowledge and regular effort. Lastly
there are penis pills, which on their own usually have
a great
effect and can increase the size of the penis.
It all depends on what
Penis pills
you choose as some are simply a rip off.
Obviously in some
situations, size can make a difference, not only in terms of the quality
of
sex,
but also as far as the comfort involved in the relationship. |